Tips and Tools

10 tips to let go…

Today I wanted to share my ideas on letting go.

I know that when I am faced with the unexplored, unknown and un chartered this can cause fear.

Even if my fear is unfounded. My body can still “react” to these fear responses.

Also with the complex nature of trauma these intense emotions can become “trapped” in the body energetically.

Hence I believe a lot of chronic pain conditions are trauma based and have emotional elements to them which I will cover in another blog post.

So how do we let go of this ,how can we release the trauma? How can we let go of the intensity?

I’ve shared some tips below:

  1. Yoga… This is especially helpful to get back into the body and out of the head- think gentle stretches rather than yogic gymnastics
  2. Prayer… To hand it over to a power greater than myself whether that be on my knees or writing a letter to God / Spirit /Angels to help me and remove my fear and putting the letter in my God Box
  3. Meditation…Especially body scans that focus on each muscle group in turn to create the relaxation response within our bodies
  4. Nature….get out of your head!, go for a walk, soak in the healing gift that mother nature has given us, trees, greenery, beautiful landscapes waiting to be explored
  5. Distraction …Something that can focus your attention and be enjoyed. I love to knit and do Mandala coloring books
  6. Creative writing….This has greatly helped me process my feelings in different ways whether that be short stories or poetry
  7. Arts and crafts. My inner child loves to play, making soaps, making cards and pottery
  8. Hot bubbly baths, with epsom salts and candles…lush escapes
  9. Listen to classical music, especially music without words
  10. Invest in good therapy!

These are just some ideas that have and do really help me.

Good luck with your own solutions and healing adventures.

Feel free to share what works for you too….

Inspirational words, Reflections

Awakening…

White wings and radiating light

I wanted to share these insightful words of wisdom from a wonderful book that I read called the Instruction Manual for Recieving God by Jason Shulman.

It’s a simple to digest book and highly recommended.

The hard work of truly awakening involves getting a clear idea of just how much of life we cannot bear.

We need to see how limited we really are. Then we will have the chance to meet God in reality and not in the fateful fantasy of saving or punishing ourselves.

The real self is not found in the movies or on the stage. It is not in books and has no script.

It is filled with surprise entrances and sometimes inexplicable exits.

All of this is OK.

It takes practice to let go of some limited idea of perfection or goodness. God is not a reward. God is your own miserable, magnificent self.

Reflections

Forgiveness…

Today I wanted to share my thoughts on the power of forgiveness.

It’s true to say that in my own life and witnessing the life of others around me one of the biggest “hurdles” is that of forgiveness both of self and others.

Bringing compassion to those wounded parts from which possibly, self sabotaging behaviours still come from is key.

How many times have you found yourself saying . “I can’t believe I have done it again!!”

The strong voice of the inner critic can be a powerful force in disabling ourselves.

I have seen people after having “accomplished” something good will sabotage it again and return to the familiar place of feeling less than. I certainly recognise this in my self.

This is the voice of the Ego mind that wants to keep us small. To feel less than and live in a “dark” place

We are I believe a product of our pasts which include our upbringing, external stimulus, experiences and from a deeper prospective from past lives that may be still “playing out”.

Whilst we are on the road of recovery in whatever form that takes, there will no doubt be an element of self parenting required.

This can be the hardest “job” in the world but also the most rewarding.

To forgive ourselves is the ointment for the soul that intrinsically wants us to feel at peace and reside in a space of joy.

We need to shine the light of awareness and curiosity on where we are at rather than judgement and self hatred.

Next time you say I’ve done it again would it be kinder to take this stand point of gentleness and self enquiry rather than “beating yourself up”?

Love and blessings.

 

Paul.

 

Reflections

The Power of stillness…

This morning I had a deep realisation that everything is ok in the world, in me and in my relationships…

I had put down needing to “do” anything or to achieve anything..

Part of my past and make up is the need to “do” and a compulsion to keep myself busy as a way of distraction from myself.

Sometimes distraction is needed but not today…today I choose to connect with the part of me that feels inadequate and in an attempt to fix this will normally busy myself hoping that someone will notice what I have done …and say “well done”

We all need to feel acknowledged which is a part of human emotion and existense.

However when I am busy trying to attach my worth to externals that in itself can cause disconnection within me.

I recognise this as a deeply engrained and familiar pattern.

I am sitting here enjoying music, in the sun enjoying being in the moment and recognising the growth in my life.

I also acknowledge the space for feelings as they arise not needing to change them but gently observing them.

“The war is over, I no longer need to fight with myself” today I let in the light and embrace what is…all is well”