Tips and Tools

10 tips to let go…

Today I wanted to share my ideas on letting go.

I know that when I am faced with the unexplored, unknown and un chartered this can cause fear.

Even if my fear is unfounded. My body can still “react” to these fear responses.

Also with the complex nature of trauma these intense emotions can become “trapped” in the body energetically.

Hence I believe a lot of chronic pain conditions are trauma based and have emotional elements to them which I will cover in another blog post.

So how do we let go of this ,how can we release the trauma? How can we let go of the intensity?

I’ve shared some tips below:

  1. Yoga… This is especially helpful to get back into the body and out of the head- think gentle stretches rather than yogic gymnastics
  2. Prayer… To hand it over to a power greater than myself whether that be on my knees or writing a letter to God / Spirit /Angels to help me and remove my fear and putting the letter in my God Box
  3. Meditation…Especially body scans that focus on each muscle group in turn to create the relaxation response within our bodies
  4. Nature….get out of your head!, go for a walk, soak in the healing gift that mother nature has given us, trees, greenery, beautiful landscapes waiting to be explored
  5. Distraction …Something that can focus your attention and be enjoyed. I love to knit and do Mandala coloring books
  6. Creative writing….This has greatly helped me process my feelings in different ways whether that be short stories or poetry
  7. Arts and crafts. My inner child loves to play, making soaps, making cards and pottery
  8. Hot bubbly baths, with epsom salts and candles…lush escapes
  9. Listen to classical music, especially music without words
  10. Invest in good therapy!

These are just some ideas that have and do really help me.

Good luck with your own solutions and healing adventures.

Feel free to share what works for you too….


Life coaching as Transformation


Today I would like to share my own thoughts and experience in learning and how to bring this to clients.

When people learn a new skill to help others I believe there is an element of transformation that will be two fold.

Transformation for the clients that come to you for coaching, and also transformation in your own life that can enrich what you do and who you are in exciting ways.

I can cast my mind back to many different training courses that I have been on where I have learnt new skills and tools that whilst I am in the learning domain on the day can be exciting and purposeful but become diluted and less impactful after the event.

Whilst adding to my skill sets in personal development and coaching is not a bad thing in itself I also feel that to have the most impact personally I need to on some level connect with the learning that has taken place and part of this will be a certain self enquiry in to my own cognition, feelings and emotions and proceeding actions and behaviours that have shifted in light in what I have learnt.

What is the most useful part of the new experience and how can this be appropriately brought into my own client practice when coaching?

I also see this, as a bit of a balancing act that I need to be aware of. Not to bring my own agenda to the client – coach session that could impact the coaching exchange in negative ways.

I like to see my own learning as a container of experience that can sit comfortably in my conscious awareness that does not need to be discussed in front of a client.

I am not the benchmark of my client’s experience. I am just an explorer in their world and when underpinned by curiosity and connection can alleviate my need to get it right and be perfect.
I also do not need to fix the client in anyway.

Coaching is a wonderful and elegant exchange of conversation that is best served with meaning with a side dish of purpose.

A smorgasbord of richness and experience in my client’s world that is fully person centred and congruent with a strong belief from me that the client I am working with is not broken.

If I deliver a solution or fix the clients “apparent” challenge, who is this about?

I am also not going to be black and white here in saying that there aren’t times that this could be useful as there could be a great deal of frustration felt by the client if I am coaching them into dead ends when a simple suggestion or a well framed amount of advice could help them move ahead and with greater clarity.

The conditioning from parenting is being questioned, some of what people continually do with less than desirable results may start to change and also the need for validation and approval from clients will start to shift into one of trusting the process and not needing to get a feel good from my clients changes but rather a deeper routed acceptance of my capabilities as a transformational coach.

When you are out in the world creating change ask yourself what can I learn and how can this be useful to others.