Affirmations

Affirmations for today…

I attract abundance in “all’ areas of my life.

I allow the good “stuff” to happen.

Everything I need is right here.

It’s all OK, helps on the way…

I let go of sadness and make space for joy.

I am brave, courageous and loved…

Inspirational words

Reflection for today…

Look how far you’ve come

Take a moment to reflect on your journey, and see how far you’ve come.

All the ways you’ve learned and grown. All the obstacles you’ve overcome.

Your mind may often remind you of all things you have or haven’t done, but just for a while give yourself some credit for who you are and be proud!

Your life is precious, and this is worth celebrating..

(Messages of Grace – Anna Grace Taylor)

Reflections

The spiritual path….a lonely road…?

Today I wanted to share my thoughts and a snap shot of my experience around the idea of a spiritual path and how that can be quite a lonely experience.

Firstly the question I have is …What does it mean to be spiritual?

I feel that the word “Spiritual” is used a lot, (maybe too much) and quite a hip thing to be thought of…but what does it actually mean?

For me I have always been aware of my connection to something other than me. As a child I was in tune with other energies and beings.

A clear memory I have is being 8 years old. We had a familiar swing in our family back garden. I loved to play on the swing for hours at a time. I also remember convincing my best friend that if you were to swing high enough on it you would reach God…I truly believed that.

During my tumultuous teens, I was also interested in anything to do with the spirit realms understanding that my limited experience of the world wasn’t all there was… I don’t feel I want to delve further into this here other than to say it was all part of my personal exploring into other worlds. Although this was a delve into darker places it also opened my horizons and view points in “just because I can’t see it, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist”

When I was 25 I started to attend 12 step fellowships and stumbled across the idea and concept of a “higher power”. Something bigger and greater than myself that not only existed but that “had my back”..

My version of unconditional love that a higher power provided was not something I had ever experienced before. How could I trust something or somebody who I couldn’t see or feel?

I based my higher power experience on my upbringing that had been abusive and anything but unconditional or consistent.

Here I was being asked to hand my will and my life over…to what or who?

The real paradigm shift in my spiritual development and awareness came when I sadly lost my brother in tragic circumstances not 6 months after I had lost my Dad to cancer.

I wanted answers and I went to the local church and from a kneeling position asked God why? I needed to know.. where was God and why had he let this happen?

The next day I walked into a local gift shop and was greeted by a Hare Krishna devotee who worked there. I felt something profound in our exchange and connection and was invited to their Sunday Feast programme.

I loved this experience and felt at home both with the other people and within myself.

The chanting of the Hare Krishna Mantra transported me to another place and was deeply moving and profound ..I felt in touch with those same places and energies that I experienced as a child..I was simply in awe.

For the next 5 years I submerged myself in Krishna Consciousness and surrounded myself with the love and support of this community. Chanting, eating blessed food studying the vedic scripts and literature and attending festivals and events.

As I healed from the trauma of my past and also the trauma of family bereavement my needs changed and the love that was shown to me from the Krishna Community started to feel conditional and with this new found awareness I made the conscious decision to come away from the movement and look at more body centric healing and modalities.

I qualified as an Angelic Reiki Practitioner. This simply rocked my world and ever since qualifying and dedicating my daily spiritual practice to this energy, I have noticed a remarkable and growing connection with the Archangels and Angelic realms. Although it was always present from a young age it makes more sense now.

This journey for me also brings with it a certain loneliness and separation from societal norms. Although I have joined a beautiful Tantric community which is nurturing, rewarding and exciting.

That said…

Being on a spiritual path can be a very lonely place. I can be part of a community and surround myself with people on a spiritual path, however I also believe that my “relationship” with God/Higher power/Spirit is deeply personal and God isn’t exclusive and accessible from just one view point or understanding. It is a personal relationship that no-one else has ownership of.

I have a strong daily practice of chanting in the morning (the Hare Krishna mantra), daily meditation (Angelic Chakra Cleansing) and often pray.. I believe in God, simply put I believe I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t.

I am very grateful for my emerging and ongoing connection with the Angelic realms and a God of my understanding which is strengthened by having a daily spiritual practice which is essential for me.

I also believe in divine timing and nothing is coincidental..I was shown what I needed to see at the right time.

I want to finish this writing with the extended serenity prayer and ask are we ever really alone?

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference”

“Grant me patience with the changes that take time, appreciation for all that I have, tolerance of those with different struggles and the strength to get up and try again”.

“One day at a time….”

With love and blessings.

Paul.

Tips and Tools

10 tips to let go…

Today I wanted to share my ideas on letting go.

I know that when I am faced with the unexplored, unknown and un chartered this can cause fear.

Even if my fear is unfounded. My body can still “react” to these fear responses.

Also with the complex nature of trauma these intense emotions can become “trapped” in the body energetically.

Hence I believe a lot of chronic pain conditions are trauma based and have emotional elements to them which I will cover in another blog post.

So how do we let go of this ,how can we release the trauma? How can we let go of the intensity?

I’ve shared some tips below:

  1. Yoga… This is especially helpful to get back into the body and out of the head- think gentle stretches rather than yogic gymnastics
  2. Prayer… To hand it over to a power greater than myself whether that be on my knees or writing a letter to God / Spirit /Angels to help me and remove my fear and putting the letter in my God Box
  3. Meditation…Especially body scans that focus on each muscle group in turn to create the relaxation response within our bodies
  4. Nature….get out of your head!, go for a walk, soak in the healing gift that mother nature has given us, trees, greenery, beautiful landscapes waiting to be explored
  5. Distraction …Something that can focus your attention and be enjoyed. I love to knit and do Mandala coloring books
  6. Creative writing….This has greatly helped me process my feelings in different ways whether that be short stories or poetry
  7. Arts and crafts. My inner child loves to play, making soaps, making cards and pottery
  8. Hot bubbly baths, with epsom salts and candles…lush escapes
  9. Listen to classical music, especially music without words
  10. Invest in good therapy!

These are just some ideas that have and do really help me.

Good luck with your own solutions and healing adventures.

Feel free to share what works for you too….

Reflections

Life coaching as Transformation

magazine-unlock-05-2.3.878-_1e0f4ad9f0744734aa49ad213aefdced

Today I would like to share my own thoughts and experience in learning and how to bring this to clients.

When people learn a new skill to help others I believe there is an element of transformation that will be two fold.

Transformation for the clients that come to you for coaching, and also transformation in your own life that can enrich what you do and who you are in exciting ways.

I can cast my mind back to many different training courses that I have been on where I have learnt new skills and tools that whilst I am in the learning domain on the day can be exciting and purposeful but become diluted and less impactful after the event.

Whilst adding to my skill sets in personal development and coaching is not a bad thing in itself I also feel that to have the most impact personally I need to on some level connect with the learning that has taken place and part of this will be a certain self enquiry in to my own cognition, feelings and emotions and proceeding actions and behaviours that have shifted in light in what I have learnt.

What is the most useful part of the new experience and how can this be appropriately brought into my own client practice when coaching?

I also see this, as a bit of a balancing act that I need to be aware of. Not to bring my own agenda to the client – coach session that could impact the coaching exchange in negative ways.

I like to see my own learning as a container of experience that can sit comfortably in my conscious awareness that does not need to be discussed in front of a client.

I am not the benchmark of my client’s experience. I am just an explorer in their world and when underpinned by curiosity and connection can alleviate my need to get it right and be perfect.
I also do not need to fix the client in anyway.

Coaching is a wonderful and elegant exchange of conversation that is best served with meaning with a side dish of purpose.

A smorgasbord of richness and experience in my client’s world that is fully person centred and congruent with a strong belief from me that the client I am working with is not broken.

If I deliver a solution or fix the clients “apparent” challenge, who is this about?

I am also not going to be black and white here in saying that there aren’t times that this could be useful as there could be a great deal of frustration felt by the client if I am coaching them into dead ends when a simple suggestion or a well framed amount of advice could help them move ahead and with greater clarity.

The conditioning from parenting is being questioned, some of what people continually do with less than desirable results may start to change and also the need for validation and approval from clients will start to shift into one of trusting the process and not needing to get a feel good from my clients changes but rather a deeper routed acceptance of my capabilities as a transformational coach.

When you are out in the world creating change ask yourself what can I learn and how can this be useful to others.